If you're seeking psychological support in Madrid, I wonder how you've navigated your search until now. I adore living in Spain, but; why does no one write their fees on their websites and why does everyone send voice messages on whatsapp (email anyone?).
In my experience, it's hard to find a therapist that has private practice experience, a decent website, and will get back to you on time.
*On this last one, I admit I often fail; in between running a remote practice in The Netherlands, directing an Institute, and managing an in-person practice in Madrid, my inbox is my nemesis. I know it sounds mildly self-important, but really; forgive me if I got back to you too late. And yes you can whatsapp me!
Gestalt Therapy: why do I work this way as a psychologist in Madrid
Gestalt therapy, offers a holistic approach to healing. It focuses on the present moment, emphasising personal responsibility and self-awareness. This does not mean much in itself though does it?
I studied psychology in University because I always wanted to be a therapist. I soon realised that during a BA, psychologists are only taught theory; general knowledge, sociology, DSM, the history of psychology, research, etc. None of my courses during a 4 year BA, was about how to actually do the work. So I decided to do a Masters degree (Clinical Psychology).
During that MSc year, I got a taste of how this work would be, but did not receive training in Psychotherapy. The MSc in The Netherlands was an extension of my BA studies in Athens, with a focus on psychotherapy- though disappointingly exclusively on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. However, it did give me a solid foundational understanding of the theory of the field.
So I started searching for an Institute that would train me in a specific modality of therapy. I was interested in Psychoanalysis, Existential therapy, and Psychodynamic therapy, but I was lucky enough to stumble upon Gestalt at the NSG.
Gestalt in some ways combines everything that I liked about the three, and then some more. It is a rich theory that allows the therapist to work creatively, to be there present (excuse the cliche) body and mind. I spent an additional 4 years (initially, and many more since then), in a group (of Dutch people, mind you), trying to understand myself, the other(s), my reactions, my past and the way it was coming alive then and there.
In that group, with my trainers/ mentors/ supervisors/ therapist & a lot of group members coming and going, I learned first of all, that therapy is embodied. Meaning: the therapist is affected in the present moment by the story of the patient. The story unfolds in the here and now, and therapist and patient alike are co-creating and co-experiencing a situation where what the patient is bringing becomes alive, not then, but now.
So, the therapist (after all that training) can "lend their body" to the process, so as to support the unfolding of the situation, either to repeat it, or hopefully, to expand the possible responses. And that is ultimately the process of healing in therapy: the expansion of felt freedom so that more possible responses emerge.
Then as therapists, our work is to be self supported enough so that we can follow the patient into the unknown, without restricting them within our own fears and neurosis. The most common occurrence in a therapist's mind is the eternal torturous
"what am I supposed to do now?"
And yet, it is in that fertile void that therapists train to be able to breath in, so as to allow the novel to form.
If I cannot withstand it, I will work not to support my patient's process, but to save myself from the anxiety of not knowing.
Psychologist in Madrid.
Services Offered: what do I actually do?
English Speaking Psychologist: Though I also trained as a psychologist, I work from the stand point of a gestalt therapist. In Spain the law asks for foreign professionals to complete a homologation trajectory (it's a work in progress pending in my inbox). I work in English/ Greek/ Romanian with internationals, couples and individuals. I studied in Dutch, but I don't use it in my work.
Anxiety: I often work with younger generations that struggle with anxiety and/ or panic attacks, or professionals that are going through a burn out process.
Depression: I meet with patients that are in a depressive landscape.
Trauma: My biggest interest at the moment lies in working with people that have suffered through sexual trauma. At a later point in my career, I noticed that I have a capacity to carry such processes, and I truly enjoy the work itself, because it is gentle, trustworthy and actual. If you are struggling or have struggled in the past, please, do reach out. We don't have to rush to go into depths as soon as we meet. This work is very much about small moments, gentle relationship.
Online Therapy: I work online with my patients that live in The Netherlands, and with old patients that have moved to different countries. I am surprised to notice that it is very much possible to work online, though I do miss offering my patients a cup of coffee and chatting about my plants. Online therapy is focused and at times more demanding for the therapist, but I have all faith in that it functions. My own therapist is also in a different country.
Individual Counseling: I work with adults from 19 years old onwards. Usually individual therapy is weekly or biweekly, and lasts one hour.
Couples Therapy: Not all therapists enjoy working with couples, but a few years ago I discovered I actually really enjoy it. It is a rewarding way to work, seeing movement happening in the here and now. I find couples work challenging and creative.
FAQs
Is therapy confidential? Yes, confidentiality is paramount in therapy. Your sessions are private and secure.
How long does therapy take to see results? Oof, tough question. Define results. The duration varies depending on individual circumstances. With dedication and commitment, positive changes can occur gradually.
Is therapy suitable for everyone? Therapy is beneficial for anyone seeking support and personal growth. An unpopular opinion however: some people will just not find it to their taste. I don't think we should pressure everyone to see a therapist. It's like when people insist that ypi watch that one movie that changed their life; maybe its not the right time, or maybe its just not your kind of thing. "Support is that which enables", and that's not the same thing for everyone.
Can I switch therapists if I'm not satisfied? Absolutely. Your comfort and satisfaction are paramount. If you feel a different approach or therapist would better suit your needs, you're free to explore other options. Usually you will know if you click with your therapist from the first session. My advice is to leave it as soon as it feels off. You should leave that first session feeling touched, connected, challenged, inspired. Now later on, things change, and if you and your therapist are in good process together, you will often feel uncomfortable, or even annoyed at them. Then you actually can try staying, pushing through and bringing it up with them.
How can I book a session? You can whatsapp me at +34 613 104 681 or email me at info@expatsintherapy.es or through the contact form on my website www.expatsintherapy.es.
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